Monday, June 23, 2008

Learning from Random Eveyday Things

I was inspired to write something today after reading a random note that a friend had posted on FaceBook. They informed me it was given to them by a friend some time ago. I started thinking about how much we learn when we are not looking for knowledge. I would like to share what perspectives I gained from reading this note. But, first, I need to share the note I found:



"I want a guy that fits this. Prove to me, you're not all the same"

From a guys point of view:

We don't care if you talk to other guys.

We don't care if you're friends with other guys.

But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, its pisses us off.

It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.

We don't care if a guy calls >OR TEXTS< you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned.

Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. that it can't wait
till the morning.

Also, when we tell you you're pretty/ beautiful/ gorgeous/
cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it.

Don't tell us we're wrong.

We'll stop trying to convince you.

The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.
Yeah, you can quote me.

Don't be mad when we hold the door open. Take Advantage of the mood im in.

let us pay for you!

dont "feel bad"

We enjoy doing it.

It's expected.

Smile and

say "thank you."

Kiss us when no

one's watching.

If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed.

You don't have to get dressed up for us.

If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to
wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own.

We like you for who you are and not what you are.

honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's. or my tshirt and boxers, not all dolled up

Don't take everything we say seriously.

Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.

Don't get angry easily.

Stop using magazines/media as your bible.

Don't talk about how hott Morris Chesnutt, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us.

It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that.

Whatever happened to the word "handsome"/"beautiful"

I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me
with "Hey handsome!" instead of "Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/ sexy" or whatever else you can think of.

on the other hand im not sayin i woulndnt like it ether ; )

Also "getting some" is not the only thing EVERY guy cares about.
Girls, proof of this is if a guy will wait for you to be "ready" to "take your relationship to the next level"

Not all guys are the same. And we're not all perfect either. We're only human.

Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right by a guy, dont wait for him to change. ditch his sorry, disgrace to the male population ass and find someone who will treat you with utter respect

Someone who will honor your morals.

Someone who will make you smile when you're at your
lowest.

Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.

Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel.

Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the eyes....and say "i love you" ..and actually mean it.

Give the nice guys a chance



So what did I get out of this??? I kind of got a sign... a sign that gives me hope that I am on the right track to learning how be the person I really want to be and that I am not alone in my way of thinking.

I don't know why, but reading this note sparked a major change in my way of thinking. As most of you know about the huge life changes I am facing right now. Having my thoughts switch from the big picture to looking at the small random events that happen in life as a learning tool is a big deal. In my last post I stated "...I have never been the kind of person that could say just screw the consequences..." I am still not that kind of person. But, this new way of thinking will help me stop sitting on the sidelines because I am afraid of the huge consequences that taking a small risk might have. Just like me starting a blog was a huge risk. At that time I was not as stable a person as I am now and putting my ideas on paper could have caused major problems in my life. But, taking that risk is what helped me become the person I am today. Taking risks is the only way to grow and to learn what life is all about.

This random note has changed one more thing. I am now a firm believer that all things, big or small, happen for a reason. It is amazing how these small things that we come across each day can change us in ways we can't fathom. They can complete change how we think and spark huge ideas. I think life teaches us the most important lessons when we least expect it. We gain fast knowledge from tiniest events. Because of this I will now be paying more attention to the random happening around me.

Small things can change lives…

Andrew