Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Another Another MINI update

This is what I posted on my MINI club fourm.

So the repair shop called me today and said I could come pickup the MINI. I stopped by knowing that I would find something wrong with their work, and sure enough they didn't even touch the mushroomed strut tower top. He even tried to show me another MINI they had in there that had looked "exactly the same" as mine. I took one look at this PS Cooper Convertible and noticed that strut tower was flat and I said that is how it is supposed to look "flat". The guy started to argue with me, here a small part of that conversation.

Repair guy: It looks like the other MINI sits up higher on that side too.
(I didn't even dignify this with a response, He was trying to tell me that a all MINI strut towers sit higher on the passenger side. I almost laughed, but held my tongue)

Me: This isn't repaired and is not acceptable.

Repair Guy: We pulled it right down to spec. I even have numbers for you.

Me: It is still damaged and it would void my warranty on my suspension.

Repair Guy: If I get a dealer to sign off on it will you accept it.

Me: If you get a written guaranty from the dealer that my warranty is not voided by the damage, yes. My advisor at the dealer ship is Justin Grey.

Repair Guy: Is he at the Chandler dealership?

Me: There is no Chandler dealership. The only one is North Scottsdale. No one else is certified on MINIs.

Repair Guy: Are you telling me that the place that sold me the parts doesn't have anyone certified on MINI's?

Me: Yes

Repair Guy: Who told you that?


Repair Guy: Well I am going to take it down here to my parts supplier (I guess Chandler BMW) and get a sign off on it.

Me: Fine

I got a call later in the day… They are taking it to MNS to get a signoff that the mushroomed strut tower is ok. I have already called Justin at MSN and let him know the situation. So much for getting his supplier to sign off on it.

Anyone want to guess what MNS is going to say?

I don't think I will take it even if he gets the signoff. I have contacted my insurance and put notes on the claim that they are not wanting to fix a damaged piece and that I don't think having a damaged item on the MINI is very safe.

Here was the Final Estimate:

PARTS 5868.10

PARTS DISCOUNT $ 5443.26 -5.0% -272.16

BODY LABOR 18.7 HRS @$ 42.00/HR 785.40

PAINT LABOR 5.2 HRS @$ 42.00/HR 218.40

MECHANICAL LABOR 9.7 HRS @$ 65.00/HR 630.50

FRAME LABOR 5.5 HRS @$ 42.00/HR 231.00

PAINT SUPPLIES 5.2 HRS @$ 26.00/HR 135.20




SUBTOTAL $ 8044.46

SALES TAX $ 5780.42 @ 7.8000% 450.87


GRAND TOTAL $ 8495.33

Monday, June 23, 2008

Learning from Random Eveyday Things

I was inspired to write something today after reading a random note that a friend had posted on FaceBook. They informed me it was given to them by a friend some time ago. I started thinking about how much we learn when we are not looking for knowledge. I would like to share what perspectives I gained from reading this note. But, first, I need to share the note I found:

"I want a guy that fits this. Prove to me, you're not all the same"

From a guys point of view:

We don't care if you talk to other guys.

We don't care if you're friends with other guys.

But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, its pisses us off.

It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.

We don't care if a guy calls >OR TEXTS< you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned.

Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. that it can't wait
till the morning.

Also, when we tell you you're pretty/ beautiful/ gorgeous/
cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it.

Don't tell us we're wrong.

We'll stop trying to convince you.

The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.
Yeah, you can quote me.

Don't be mad when we hold the door open. Take Advantage of the mood im in.

let us pay for you!

dont "feel bad"

We enjoy doing it.

It's expected.

Smile and

say "thank you."

Kiss us when no

one's watching.

If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed.

You don't have to get dressed up for us.

If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to
wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own.

We like you for who you are and not what you are.

honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's. or my tshirt and boxers, not all dolled up

Don't take everything we say seriously.

Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.

Don't get angry easily.

Stop using magazines/media as your bible.

Don't talk about how hott Morris Chesnutt, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us.

It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that.

Whatever happened to the word "handsome"/"beautiful"

I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me
with "Hey handsome!" instead of "Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/ sexy" or whatever else you can think of.

on the other hand im not sayin i woulndnt like it ether ; )

Also "getting some" is not the only thing EVERY guy cares about.
Girls, proof of this is if a guy will wait for you to be "ready" to "take your relationship to the next level"

Not all guys are the same. And we're not all perfect either. We're only human.

Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right by a guy, dont wait for him to change. ditch his sorry, disgrace to the male population ass and find someone who will treat you with utter respect

Someone who will honor your morals.

Someone who will make you smile when you're at your

Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.

Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel.

Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the eyes....and say "i love you" ..and actually mean it.

Give the nice guys a chance

So what did I get out of this??? I kind of got a sign... a sign that gives me hope that I am on the right track to learning how be the person I really want to be and that I am not alone in my way of thinking.

I don't know why, but reading this note sparked a major change in my way of thinking. As most of you know about the huge life changes I am facing right now. Having my thoughts switch from the big picture to looking at the small random events that happen in life as a learning tool is a big deal. In my last post I stated "...I have never been the kind of person that could say just screw the consequences..." I am still not that kind of person. But, this new way of thinking will help me stop sitting on the sidelines because I am afraid of the huge consequences that taking a small risk might have. Just like me starting a blog was a huge risk. At that time I was not as stable a person as I am now and putting my ideas on paper could have caused major problems in my life. But, taking that risk is what helped me become the person I am today. Taking risks is the only way to grow and to learn what life is all about.

This random note has changed one more thing. I am now a firm believer that all things, big or small, happen for a reason. It is amazing how these small things that we come across each day can change us in ways we can't fathom. They can complete change how we think and spark huge ideas. I think life teaches us the most important lessons when we least expect it. We gain fast knowledge from tiniest events. Because of this I will now be paying more attention to the random happening around me.

Small things can change lives…


Sunday, June 22, 2008

What a weekend..

Another great weekend out on the town passes... WOW I am tired, yet can't seem to sleep today. I was out with friends on Friday night, Saturday night, and most of the day on Sunday. I am going to have to spend next weekend at home getting things done here.

Well I haven't blogged in a while. Lots to catch everyone up on. My MINI is still not back in my garage... Don't really know when it is going to be done. I am going to make sure I stop by there tomorrow to check on it. I am also going to go get the paperwork done for my passport tomorrow. Yeah a passport... I am looking for some more travel in my future. My company is really getting a lot of international business and they need all the help over there they can get. I am hoping for a short trip to Germany.

So this whole me not sleeping tonight thing it weird. I have had some very sleepless nights in the last several months for obvious reasons. But tonight is different. I just can't shut my brain off. I have been stuck in a thinking mode since about 6PM; it is 3:45AM now!!! There is just a lot to ponder today. Most of which is not for this or any other blog. Well most of what I am pondering is good stuff. Stuff about how I am going to proceed with my life, where I am going to take my daily routine, and how I am going to grow my group of friends. That last one is the one I am having the most difficult time with.

Here is why... I am not a single person, never really was single in my adult life nor most of my late teen life. I have never lived alone until now. I have to figure all of this being single and living alone stuff out. Right now I feel like I am floating down the river without a paddle. I have no frame of reference when it comes to living life in this way. So, I know I am going to be making a lot of mistakes. Making mistakes with life is how you learn. But at the same time knowing I am going to make mistakes also keeps me from doing things I really want to because I don't want a mistake to cause problems that makes life even harder to deal with for others as well as myself. Well I have never been the kind of person that could say just screw the consequences and just do what I want. I can't do that, I have too much respect for everyone around me to create that kind of turmoil. I am working to get over this mental block and take some risks with my life... by doing that I might just learn how to live...

Well I am going to get back to surfing the web and watching videos... I still have a season of Transformers the original to watch... and now I have the new Transformers Animated and several other shows to catch up on.

You all have a good night sleeping.


Saturday, June 14, 2008

Another MINI update

Well I have another update. I will have my MINI back on the 23rd... If all the parts and everything arive on time.

I was able to see it the other day. It was cool to see the MINI all tore down and everything all laying on racks. Some for repair and some for replacement. I guess I hit the something with the AC unit and they are having to replace everything. Well I guess I will have a good suspention and new AC work.

I am confused about one thing.. They were going to straighten the frame. If they can't straighten it to specs then will they total the MINI? that is a question I can't answer.

Good night all


Monday, June 9, 2008

MINI update and my day

So the MINI will most likely not going to be totaled. The initial parts estimate. 6800-7000. I fully expect that it will go higher as they dig in to the damage more. Now I am hoping that they can fix it up right. I will not take anything less than perfect. It should look and drive better then the day I hit the curb. I mean I am getting an entirely new suspension on the one side and depending on how the other side looks... maybe that one too. So if it doesn't drive better then there is a problem.

So life throws curve balls at you all the time. This one is costly but it shouldn't be to bad. I have good insurance and I shouldn't even have my policy premiums go up any. I think I will get away will very little out of pocket.

Well all I did today is work. As usual it was a shitty day at work. We are in this new office building that sucks, No high speed internet, no phones, no fax. It is like working in a sweet shop without any cloth to make cloths with. There isn't a point. We are stuck in this new office for 4 weeks because our office is under construction.... We will see if I have something better than a cube when I get back... I doubt it.

Good night all. I hope you all had a great day.


Sunday, June 8, 2008

Good Bye Post

I am going to use this post to say good bye to a coworker and a friend. I didn't know you well nor did I know you long but you are still a friend. I will try and keep in touch though the business of life.

So to my friend. Have a safe journey to your destination. May the journey of life take you to great places and show you great things. Have fun with it.


Thursday, June 5, 2008

What a night!!!

Link to pic won't you will just have to find it in my myspace pic section.

That says it all. I hit a curb in my MINI...I was heading our Brown Rd and went around the roundabouts, on the second one I moved to the inside lane and I just started sliding, went right in to the curb. I was going about 35-40. I guess I really needed new tires.

I was just trying taking a nice long drive out in to the mountains to be alone and away from everything for a while. I didn't even make it 3 miles from the house. WOW.

At least I am ok. The MINI is fixable and it shouldn't take too long no body damage. Well I guess it is to the rental car place tomorrow and get everything worked out with the insurance.


Another day passes

One more day in the saga of life passes. I was home sick from work today and I will be working from home tomorrow. They started construction on a new room in our office. The noise may allow me to work from home for the next month. They are looking at a business suite to move us to for a short time but we will still be without all of our resources that the full office has and the temp location is a longer drive from the house. I should ask for mileage for the extra distance.

One of these days I will get back to a normal sleeping pattern. Right now I can't sleep. I have too many thoughts in my head and they are keeping me awake. I just don't have the want to take meds to go to sleep today. I can't stand having to rely on a pill to make sure I sleep.

Well I have found several apartments that I wouldn't mind moving in to. That is a good step forward in moving on with life AM. (After Marriage) That is a good way of looking at it. To know that life goes on is a huge step after you have decided to divorce. To know that life is worth living is another step. I haven't reached that one yet. I am still too busy trying to find out how to survive. At this point, that is correct, I don't know if life after losing person you were planning the rest of your life with is really worth living alone. Life has dealt me a shitty hand at this time. I am doing my best with it. I will try and not let my feelings bring me down.

Most days I just miss her. I spend a few hours every day all by myself just thinking about why. I love her more now than I can ever remember in the past. I think it is because of what she is doing. She is taking the initiative and trying to find her own way through life. That is something that always attracted me to her, her strength to be herself. You know it is hard to be yourself while you are with someone else all the time. How do you keep yourself from losing yourself in a relationship? That is a question I can't answer. I lost myself in the relationship and that caused a ripple effect that caused her to lose herself too. Now this isn't the only reason we are not together anymore. It is just one.

You know the phrase; you don't know what you got until is gone. That isn't always true: but, most of the time you realize a lot more about what you had after it is gone.

Well I think I am going to go take one of my pills and go to sleep now. It is too early in the morning to keep typing like this.


Monday, June 2, 2008

Well I have slept a few times

Ok... so Saturday didn't go bad. It wasn't bad staying in the other room while she was here. I still felt like I should have gone with her after she left. But I have always felt that way every time she would leave the house without me. I will never really be over her. I still love her very much.

Back to my life only for a bit. I am starting to make real progress on packing up the house. I also found and purchased a bed this weekend. I started looking for an apartment. I am looking kind of early but you can never be too prepared for what is coming. I seven bought a few things I know I will be without after all of this is over. No need to do without stuff when you can take care of it before hand.

So, life after marriage is looking better to me now than ever before. I will be able to start over and do things just for me for a while. I am looking forward to having time to myself. I do miss the companionship and having that person there to talk to everyday about nothing important. You know those are the best conversations... the ones where you just talk about everything yet really nothing all at the same time. That is when you really get to know people and how they think. Now, don't get me wrong, conversations about the important things are great as well and have to happen otherwise you end up without anyone to talk to. That is the key to have a good interaction with people... communication.

I am trying to learn to communicate better. I am horrible at it now. Example, I IMed someone the comment I used earlier "conversations about nothing important are the best and that I hadn't had one of those in a while". So there response was that I was rude. Now, I understand it was just taken in a sarcastic way. But I don't know how to put it differently to make it make more sense. I don't think it is possible. Just like I don't think, in the context I wrote the same thing earlier, it is going to be taken that way again. I guess I haven't learned enough about the people I must communicate with to know how they will take what I say. I have gotten the comment that I say things without thinking of how they are going make others feel. I guess I assumed that they knew me well enough to know that what I said wasn't meant to hurt them.

I don't think enough about what I am going to say. I take forever to write these blogs because I pick every word carefully. I try not to mention names or specifics about things that might hurt the people in the blog. I think of those who will be reading this as I write. I think of how they will read it and what they might think. No one can predict everything someone else will think. That is what makes us ourselves, makes us individuals. But, when I talk that time buffer isn't there and things just come out without thinking of those around you. It is a filter that I don't have.

Well I am going to quit for now. My evening is just beginning and I have to work the early shift tomorrow. I get to play golf tomorrow afternoon!!!

Good night.